I was told something very uplifting and almost therapeutic yesterday. But first a short preview of how it came to be.

Every Tuesday evening I go to SPTTC to compete in a Table Tennis league. After partaking a few times I eventually made friends with others that share the same love for the sport; one in mind whom I will refer to as KS. He and I have actually been playing seriously this year and hope to get a little better each time.

In the midst of the competition I had found myself with some downtime in-between matches. I found my friend sitting by himself waiting for his turn as well. We got to talking and it eventually got around to him complementing my youthful energy; mind you he's roughly in his 50's (but the guy is pretty youthful and energetic for such an age). We talked about how we found this sport and how it's keeping us out of trouble. Thanks to finding something I'm so invested in I am never bored and I don't dwell on things like partying and drinking. He mentioned how he would get only two drinks with his family and even if he was alone that that was his limit. He then branched off to his daughters and (he said this part jokingly... or not) that he and his wife are only together for the time being for the sake of the children going to college. I took this as a joke and it seemed that KS was joking as well. I brought up the current trouble my significant other and I are having and KS said he'd gone through the same exact thing with his wife. 

Now this scared me a bit and thought to myself "What if I start to feel about my SO the same way as he joked about his wife?"
He then told me that I was a handsome young man with a wonderful personality. I was a good guy and other people can see that.

Bomb dropped.

What I got from our conversation is that even though I go through these hardships in my relationship, if the worse case scenario happens, I shouldn't be worried. I still am the same person before I entered this relationship.
It's not that I'm looking to end it; I just really needed to hear something that could lift my spirits and my self-esteem.

Starting tomorrow, I'm gonna have a stronger soul and be more headstrong than ever before. 

... shouldn't have left you without a good blog to read to.

I recently read an old flame's conversation on a social networking site. I still care about her and talk to her from time to time. She's in NY and while being completely free and independent, is struggling to maintain such status. I always offered help whenever I could. The only subject I would feel uneasy about is to talk about her love life. The conversation I saw was in spanish and it was to another gentleman; she doesn't know I understand spanish.

Honestly, I wish I never saw the conversation or understood the language.

It hurts for me to see that the love is not for me.
Oh well, life goes on.

But for others, life ends when we break apart. 

In a long term relationship with intentions of marriage is sexual compatibility a prerequisite to a successful and happy life?

Here's the scenario:

My relationship with my girlfriend is (as of 8:58 p.m. EST) 3 years, 7 months, 12 days, 3 hours, and 2 minutes strong. In our first year, we went at it like bunnies. Our second year slowed down a lot. From the third year till now sex became a bit of a challenge to acquire. Here are the reasons why.

* She's gained a bit of weight so that's a bit hard for me to appeal with. (However, my libido is unbiased. If they're willing, then I shall have my way with them.)
* To say that her libido is low is to say that the Atlantic ocean is damp.
* Her complaint is that I want sex too often. Whereas in the beginning of the relationship sex was a daily recommended supplement.

It's not too sexless, but it occurs once every blue moon. 
However, if this is what I have to look forward to the rest of my life, is it worth it? (Keep in mind, I do love her.) :D
If this is the trend I've observed till now, won't it just be exponentially worse later down the road?